Channeling: Failure

It is difficult to discuss failure without discussing compassion and the necessity of compassion when you feel like you have failed at something. This we wish to talk about first as a sort of energetic context before we even begin considering the vibration of ‘failure’ more in depth.

Holding yourself in compassion and understanding during these moments where things did not work out the way you hoped or expected is everything. It is paramount in the way that you are able to navigate through the feelings that may arise from the experience and in what you are able to extract from it – how you are able to learn and grow from it.

The energy of failure is difficult to process without the accompanying element of compassion, without the equal voice beside it saying and acknowledging the pain out loud. Because if you do not acknowledge this pain, it will only grow and fester, and become shame, become something you want to hide and keep secret from others.

Failure is not really failure. You cannot fail. Your soul cannot fail. You came here to simply be you, and there is no way that you cannot achieve this. Whatever you do is okay. It is accepted. Even if you feel that you struggle with your authenticity, you are still being you, struggling with that. There is no failure. It isn’t an option. Your soul learns and grows from everything and all aspects about you.

So why do we experience this painful emotion, this feeling that we came up short, weren’t good enough, didn’t or couldn’t achieve what we set out to do?

The answer is, of course, the ego. The ego is excellent at inventing thresholds and expectations and investing great importance on these. It then sets us up for failure, many times, by not being able or willing to take the necessary steps it would take to achieve those expectations on their timeline. It may try and force and fight to make it work against Divine Timing, making it all the more painful when the outcome comes up short to its point of view.

You will have experienced this. It is a normal experience and part of being human that we create rigid expectations and then experience the disappointment of their failure to come into fruition, wondering where we went wrong and why we weren’t good enough to make that be.

The answer is that what is meant to be yours cannot miss you, and that what is meant to be is not forgotten by Spirit. There is no missing out or missing of in Creation. But there are certainly moments that things are meant to arise in, or particular ways things are meant to manifest that will often contradict the mind’s plans.

Failure is like building a nest in a tree with twigs in the winter and being upset that no birds hatched their eggs in it. All the while, it is winter, and the birds have migrated South. There were simply no eggs to be hatched. All the while, that nest may be the perfect nest for them when they return in the Spring. But in the midst of your upset, you will not see this. Your attempt to build a home for the birds has failed, and failure feels so final, so immovable.

You are to honor that feeling. You must feel the pain of your disappointment and acknowledge the suffering your human self endures in the face of its own expectations, the pressure it puts on itself to achieve things in a certain way in a certain timeline. You must honor your noble desire to achieve a meaningful goal and encourage yourself not to give up simply because the timing did not align with your mind’s vision.

It is only through digesting this wave of feeling around your failure that you can come out on the other side, and see the Spring. See the way that your idea of failure was very often the perfect set up for an unexpected gift.

Spirit never wastes an opportunity to teach or create meaning. Your failures are not a waste of energy nor a waste of time. Do not rush past them. Honor what they showed you. Honor what they have to teach you about honoring the natural cycles of life, Divine Timing, your body’s wisdom. Ask Spirit to help you see what you need to know about this situation. What was I not seeing clearly? What was I bypassing?

What do I need to know so that I can bring this vision about more successfully in the future?

These are all questions that can be explored after you have fully processed your emotions with the backdrop of deep compassion for yourself and your suffering. It is asked in the spirit of full acceptance, of nonjudgment, and a sincere desire to learn.

As no lessons ever go to waste, you can be grateful for this experience as it will teach you and allow you to create even better in the future, with a greater sense of how to manifest, how to be detached from outcomes, how to envision in greater partnership with Spirit.

Allow yourself, then, to get the most out of the experience. Though it may not have looked the way you wanted it to, know that you can still get just as much if not more out of it by embracing what there is to learn from the experience and being willing to do things differently in the future.

That is all.