Channeling on Loneliness

About the pain and the illusion of this (ironically) common human experience.

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Loneliness is a difficult emotion for many. And it is hard to accept that this feeling, too, is an illusion. When you are feeling lonely, it feels like nobody is there, like nobody knows you, understands you, or cares about you. It feels like you are having to face your life alone, without someone to share your struggles or successes with.

This is a painful feeling for a human because separation is a deep wound. In a way, the experience of it – though in part, an illusion – begins as early as your incarnation. In incarnating into the 3rd dimension, this part of your soul separated from its soul monad into an experience on Earth that was full of division. You were embodied in your difference. You experienced physical sensations that only you could feel. You made sounds from your body that only you made. You experienced yourself as an individual entity in a way that is unique.

In the disincarnate world, there is much greater awareness of your oneness. The experience of interconnectivity is much more profound. There are experiences that we all can tap into, we can share with greater oneness and knowledge of our oneness. We know without a doubt that we are sharing our experience of Life, that we are all connected to the Great Creator and thus one. Our individuality is that of a single light shining through different fractals, different colors of glass, though the image is one complete stained glass window. And the light that shines through is that one-ness we are all a part of.

It is easy to miss that in the 3rd dimension. Division has been a feature of your world, as has been black and white or binary thinking. You vs me, us vs them, this vs that. When someone is different in some way, they often feel that they are ‘other-ed’ – like everyone else in the world is one way, and they are punished by their difference, made to stand alone.

Thus the pain of this 3D experience. Your soul longs to shine forth its individual fractal of colored light and yet, in doing this, there is a great fear that you will out yourself as too different. There is a fear that in shining this truth of yourself, your differences will see you rejected and alone. That you will become separate and without others to share yourself with truly.

Of course, this is an illusion. For on one level, separation is impossible. You are all shining forth from the same light, and if you are experiencing a rejection from someone, they are likely mirroring a rejecting that they have towards themselves. This is a blessing. You are helping them see their own pain. You are helping to move them back into oneness. Their feelings of rejection towards you only shows them their own desire for one-ness that they reject. For you cannot truly experience oneness if you are rejecting a part of yourself. It is like a piece of the puzzle remains missing, remains hidden if you refuse to let it shine, and this actually prevents you from true connection.

True connection means that all of your light shines with all of the light of ‘another’, so that you realize the truth of the light you share. This means you must overcome your own rejection of yourself, your own fear of rejection or separation, and truly allow that light to shine.

Often times we think that we are being rejected or not enough, or that others think we are strange or bad, when it is really a voice within our head telling us this. It is division and fragmentation within us. It is a call for greater self-acceptance.

And when we truly align with that voice calling for self-acceptance and surrender our fears, we can never truly feel alone. The illusion, which was only mirroring our own fear-based delusions, drops, and you are able to see the truth. And we say ‘see’ because it is accurate: the truth was already there, but it was being obscured by wounds.

And the truth is that you are one with all of Creation, and all of Creation is part of and within you. This means it is available to you as a resource, as a pool of unconditional love and creativity and joy. It is a constant, infinite stream and reservoir of light around you and through at all times. It rejoices in your connection with it. It celebrates you when you allow it. And it never judges you or rejects you if you do not. there is no judgment in Creation. All judgment and fear comes from the ego.

The ego wants to keep you safe. It wants to keep your inner child safe. And that is why it creates stories – that is all it can do. It is its only tool. Connection with the whole of creation can give you everything, heal you, and fill your body with blissful light, but the ego will create stories because its goal is to keep you safe. This means, keep things the same, the way it knows it always has been.

That means if some small parts of you felt they couldn’t fully express themselves as a child, as is likely the case, the ego jotted that down, and it programmed your personality and your body with that information. If you weren’t allowed to fully express your needs or desires, this was important information. As a baby or young child, rejection from your family – who you depended on to live – was especially powerful and impactful. Your mind developed quickly to keep you safe, to keep you alive and sane.

But that programming endures. If you were not allowed to emotionally express and were not taught that your feelings and emotions are your teachers, then this patterning will continue. You will find yourself hiding your feelings, afraid that if you share how you feel or what you want, you will be scolded, shamed, punished, and rejected. Your mind will have you convinced this is the case to the extent that you will often scold, shame and punish yourself. You have rejected parts of yourself before allowing them to be rejected again. This is safety for the ego.

But what happens when we hide a truth in ourselves? The pain of separation. The pain of restricting that massive flow of unconditional love. Loneliness sinks in. and how can we share ourselves truly, if we have been trained to hide things from others, from ourselves? If we have been taught and believed that who we are is not good enough, of course it does not feel safe to share or even access who that person is.

This is why self-knowledge and self-intimacy is so important. Know yourself. Understand why your patterns are the way that they are. There is great power in knowing your wounds and knowing your patterned responses. This gives you the power to have great compassion for yourself, first and foremost, and to understand that this all came from a desire for safety and connection. Then, it gives you the power to make a choice with your free will. Is this still the most aligned and truthful action? Is this the choice that truly will bring you the freedom, love and connection you desire? Most likely, it is not, as patterned responses are designed to keep things as they were. Patterned responses seek to stop your growth, keep you small.

Sometimes the patterned response is so strong that doing otherwise will stir great fear in your body. It will feel unnatural to express your needs or set a boundary. The fear your ego created for you as a tool becomes a barrier for you to take aligned action. That emotion is to be honored and processed, lovingly addressed and allowed to move, but it must not be obeyed. Your job is to grow. Your job is to teach your inner child it is safe to be herself.

So do not believe the fear. Know it is only an old way of being coming up to be cleared away. And each time you heal such a fear, such a barrier to your true, authentic power, you become more connected to All That Is. When you are truly aligned with this cosmic force, you cannot feel alone.

Many people also feel that, to combat their loneliness, they simply need someone else. They need one person to whom they can tell everything and do everything with. Be cautious about this mindset as it speaks to codependence. There can be so much fear of being rejected or abandoned for your true self that the ego might convince you that others are your source of safety. This is another lie. You are your true source of safety.

It is beautiful to connect with other people and we are not discouraging that. Others can bring in new perspectives and they can amplify your own magic, joy and power. They can remind you of the joy in oneness, when you engage mindfully and from a place of your own power. However, if you hold a belief, whether conscious or unconscious, that someone else can heal you, make you happy, make you safe, you are engaging in another lie that is predicated on separation.

If you have All That Is inside you, you do not have to look anywhere else for it. You have a whole spiritual support team, your Higher Self, your soul monad, and all of Spirit there for you. A fixation on another human buys into the lie that you are not enough as you are. If you truly understood your connection to Source, you could not believe that you are not enough. You would know that all of Life was within you, in your soul. You would know that the greatest access point to this energy is from within your own soul, your own body. To believe otherwise suggests that another is connected to Source in a way that you are not. it suggests that you are less than, and it suggests that you are not allowing the deep connection you desire to unfold between you and all of Creation. This creates a familiar pain that many experience as loneliness.

Unfortunately, often when people experience this sensation of loneliness in the body, they do not first look within and see what parts of themselves are calling out for love and acceptance. They do not see first the barriers to their own connection to their soul, who longs to be in oneness with God. They feel their loneliness as a sign that they are not enough, that they are flawed or too much or too little in some way, and their mind creates a story: to fix this incompleteness, this imperfection, another person can balance me out, make me happy, make me feel seen and understood.

This may work for a little while, but you will know that since it came from the ego, it creates an illusion that is only temporary. It will not be long until that feeling comes back, and now you are feeling additional pain: this person was also not enough to make you feel better, or you were extra not enough for not being fulfilled by them.

The truth is that you must fulfill your own self. You must fill yourself with your own Self, your Higher Self. You must release yourself from the illusion of being incomplete or imperfect, or requiring modification in any way. All that must be done is an allowing of what Is to express itself through you. And what iS is your perfection. To allow it, you must be willing to look within and see what is blocking the flow.

The flow is a constant river of joy. It moves through you and guides you to your greater joy and happiness. It is abundance. It is love. It is one-ness, excitement, truth, beauty, expansion. There is no separation in the flow. There is no pain of loneliness. It is one-ness, it is light, it is an eagerness to grow that light and a peace deep within it that all is well and as it should be. It guides you toward that truth. It guides you to a deeper knowing of this truth of you. It blesses your life with all that would truly fulfill your soul: your purpose, your recognition of your power and authentic expression of self, and consequently, the circumstances in your life that will support, nourish, and celebrate that.

The flow is the uniting force between all beings in Creation – it is the light that shines through us all. It is the truth. Allow yourself to merge with that light which is already within you, which is already, inextricably you. In that oneness, any illusion of aloneness is impossible. You know you are with All That Is in peaceful harmony. You know that you can use this energy to feel all that you would crave: love, connection, understanding, compassion, friendship. And this does inevitably manifest in the 3rd dimension when you allow it to flow through you in the 5th.

Your soul wants this for you, God/Life/Creation wants this for you. It rejoices at your decisions to heal, knowing that more of it can express through you, knowing that the illusions of separation are healing.

Know that you are worthy of this, that you are loved, and that your journey to and through this experience is honored. There is no judgment, no pressure to be any particular way, only a sincere desire for one’s greatest joy to be expressed – a desire for one to remember their truth and recognize the power they have always been and had inside of them. The soul learns much from the illusion of separation and rejoices in its return to truth, to oneness. And how you get there is your choice. You are loved unconditionally in the journey and we are always there, cheering you and ready to assist.

That is all.